无论是职业规划还是教育规划，最大的难点不是向外分析就业形势或者专业热门程度，或者学校录取的难易程度。最大的难点是向内分析，究竟这个专业是不是我想要的，在这里这个地方以这种形式学习，是不是能激发我最大的潜力，我究竟是个什么样的人，想要什么，能做到什么，能做好什么。

认识自己，首先是认识以前的自己。年轻人不知道自己有多么善于忘记，也因此很多次已经发现了自己的长项，有了很出彩的表现和令人骄傲的成绩后，却又忘了其实这可以打造为自己的核心竞争力。有时候随波逐流惯了，自己并没有在挑选最能挑战和体现自己强项的事情去做，而是按部就班的做被要求的事情和工作，以至于哪怕自己是有特点有专长的，也在平庸的过程中丧失了对自己骄傲感的回忆。因此我建议想要定位自己的同学，拿出一张纸，回忆过去的三五年中，哪三件事你做的最有成就感，以至于你当时有一种这件事别人都比不上我的冲动，寻找到这三件事，然后分析它们背后所体现出来你的优势和特点。

其次，就是通过自己设定的挑战来测试。比如一方面说自己不适合中国的教育模式，另一方面从来不选小班研讨课，也没参加过出国的夏令营，也没进行过交换生学习，甚至没有主动做过独立的论文研究和课题展示，自己如何能判断自己更适合海外的教学模式呢？

再次，听取别人对自己的评价。没有人能够完美的认识自己，正如没有镜子，我们连自己的脸都洗不干净。真诚的，有经验的，专业的人的意见，很多时候反映了自己所看不到的自己的那一面。然而有时因为信任没有建立，别人不敢评价，有时因为同学好胜心太强，不愿意听不好的，反而想要一味的反驳和争辩，于是乎错失了对自己加深了解的机会。良药苦口利于病，忠言逆耳利于行，一个收不到批评的人，失去了借助别人力量进步的可能。

第二步：增加体验、像过来人请教，让理想落地

很多时候最可悲的地方不是实现不了理想，而是实现以后发现和自己想象的完全不一样。为了避免有这种订立目标时假大空虚的倾向，我的建议是去看看那些觉得已经实现了目标的人是什么状态。因此在寻找意义时，坚决杜绝闭门造车，可以进行目标学校走访、目标学校校友访谈，看看出国进了那个学校，究竟能不能实现自己的想法，搜集关于理想更多的现实资料，让理想落地。比如想要做一名老师，暑假可以先去支教或者兼职教书体验一下，比如想要做一名主持人，通过各种途径访谈一名现任的主持人，看看那是不是你想要的状态。比如想进宾大读书，就来和我聊天，问问宾大的学习和生活真实的状态是什么样子的。

只有当理想落地变成丰满的认识时，这个理想才能被分析和分解，而目标分解成小的任务，才可能被实现。

Whether it is career planning or education planning, the biggest difficulty is not to analyze the employment situation or the popularity of majors, or the difficulty of school admission. The biggest difficulty is to analyze inwardly, whether this major is what I want, whether studying in this way in this place can stimulate my greatest potential, what kind of person am I, what do I want, what can I do? What can be done, what can be done well.

To know yourself is to know your former self first. Young people don't know how good at forgetting they are, and because of this, they have discovered their strengths many times. After having outstanding performance and proud achievements, they forget that this can actually be their core competitiveness. . Sometimes I am used to going with the flow, and I am not picking the things that can challenge and reflect my strengths to do, but doing the required things and jobs step by step, so that even if I have characteristics and expertise, I am also mediocre. Lost memories of my pride in the process. Therefore, I suggest that students who want to position themselves, take out a piece of paper, and recall which three things you have done in the past three to five years, so that you have a feeling that no one else can compare to this My impulse is to find these three things, and then analyze your strengths and characteristics reflected behind them.

The second is to test yourself with challenges you set yourself. For example, on the one hand, I said that I am not suitable for the Chinese education model, on the other hand, I have never taken small class seminars, never participated in summer camps abroad, never conducted exchange student studies, and even did not take the initiative to do independent thesis research and project presentations , How can I judge that I am more suitable for overseas teaching mode?

Again, listen to what others say about you. No one can know him

Again, listen to what others say about you. No one can know himself perfectly, just as without a mirror, we can't even wash our face. The opinions of sincere, experienced, and professional people often reflect a side of yourself that you don't see. However, sometimes because trust is not established, others dare not comment, and sometimes because classmates are too competitive and unwilling to listen to bad things, they want to refute and argue blindly, so they almost miss the opportunity to deepen their understanding of themselves. Good medicine is good for the disease, and good advice is good for deeds. A person who cannot receive criticism loses the possibility of making progress with the help of others.

The second step: increase experience, ask for advice from people who have come here, and let the ideal come true

In many cases, the saddest thing is not that the ideal cannot be realized, but that after realizing it, it is completely different from what one imagined. To avoid this tendency to set goals with a false sense of emptiness, my suggestion is to look at the state of those who feel they have achieved their goals. Therefore, when looking for meaning, resolutely put an end to doing things behind closed doors. You can visit the target school and interview the alumni of the target school to see if you can realize your ideas after entering that school abroad, collect more realistic information about the ideal, and let the ideal come true. For example, if you want to be a teacher, you can go to support teaching or part-time teaching experience in summer vacation. For example, if you want to be a host, interview a current host through various channels to see if that is the state you want . For example, if you want to study at Penn, you can come to chat with me and ask me what the real state of study and life at Penn is like.

Only when the ideal becomes a full understanding can the ideal be analyzed and decomposed, and the goal can be realized by decomposing it into small tasks.